So, I was reminiscing on the day I got my first dress.. not THE dress, the first dress (here) I bought and flip-flopped on at the last minute, when it occurred to me ( yes, after 6 months it JUST occurred to me) It really is important you are mentally, emotionally, physically(ahem) prepared before setting out to find a dress. I can’t tell you how annoying it is to know you wasted much needed money on something you will never get to wear.
So you recently got engaged. You have set a date. You have picked a venue. You are ready for the dress. Here are a few things of note.
- Decide on a budget and agree ( with your groom, your parents, his parents) on the vision: You can’t (actually you’re the bride you can do whatever you want but still…) wear a princess ball gown with 7 inch blinged out louboutins to a shoe-less beach wedding neither can you wear a backless strapless sheath gown to an Amish country wedding- The pieces have to fit. Before you judge, yes I know I am no expert but I hope I’m stating the obvious here.
- Do your research. Take the advice from my “10 things to do after you get engaged”
- Most dresses take [at least] between 4-8 months to prepare from order date. This does not include time for alterations and fittings before the big day. Fittings are scheduled from 8 weeks before the wedding and usually come in threes. It is very rare to find a bride who needs zero alterations/fittings so you should prepare to visit the store at least one more time before pick up. I should add however, that many stores will sell the samples of dresses off the rack (as is) so have no fear if you are a time-conscious bride.
- Be physically prepared. I will leave it at that. Go in nice underwear with invisible lines *duh*
- Your first dress may or [most likely] may not be THE dress. The problem with trying on dresses for such an important day is that everything starts to tug at your emotional strings. I can’t tell you how many dresses I called THE DRESS when I put them on. Prepare to be courted … these dresses try to lure you in with their ivory charm .. and seductive lace … but my advice is that you go a couple of times just to TRY stuff on. I know it’s a little frustrating to the saleswomen but do you want to end up like me ? with a fistful of tulle and nowhere to put it ? NO? so there you go.
- Do NOT feel obligated to take all your friends, family and bridesmaids on the search. I understand that you want to share every moment of your special time with them but dress-selection is a very stressful and critical step in the process. You want to be able to have a clear mind and spirit. There’s nothing wrong with going alone if you are positive you want to make the decision solo; or going with one person you know (for sure) gets what you’re looking for. Don’t feel bad.. just do it! (nike.. okay I digress)
- Stop looking the minute you swipe that card. If you are anything like me you do NOT need to continue “browsing” .. that mistake is just that- a mistake. Avoid trouble, close your eyes.
- HAVE FUN. Everything happens so fast! It feels like just yesterday that I got married..Alas it has been almost 6 months . Take in every minute.
My Bridesmaids are so hilarious.. check out this snippet from one of our Dress-Trial days out…
Lots of Love !