Wedding Planning: The good, bad and ugly! | APbride Phyllis

Kunbi O / Friday July 18, 2014


When Calvin and I got engaged, we decided to take 30 days to let it all sink in and enjoy the moment before all the stress of planning began. It was great! Everything changed on June 8th when we had our first wedding planning meeting. Sigh…Thank goodness I love my fiancé. Our personalities are SO different. I’m a planner and everything was orderly…until Hurricane Calvin came into my life LOL! Let’s just say he’s more spontaneous and laid back. Things just happen whenever and however. So this first meeting had me doing MAJOR breathing exercises. In my mind, if we are planning for a wedding for 2015, we are already a year behind. In Calvin’s mind, we have all the time in the world SMH

It took us some time, but after the meeting we had set our budget, picked a tentative wedding date, planned to look at local and destination venues, talked about who we wanted for the wedding party and started the guest list. So much!! I had a headache when it was over, but I was happy that we were finally in the planning stage. Since then I’ve created 1 million lists for everything “Givens Wedding 2015.” I registered with tons of wedding websites and blogs, and I am cheating on my fiancé with Pinterest LOL! I shared my wedding checklist with Calvin and my sister who is my Matron of Honor. Can you guest which one of them looked at the list to date? Gotta love him though ☺

So what else happened in June you ask???


I went to my 1st bridal expo and it was fun and overwhelming at the same time. So many vendors, so many people!! I got some good information, great free stuff and delicious food and desserts! I will visit a few more over the summer to gather more ideas that will help me plan our day.


I subscribed to The Bride Box, which is a monthly subscription box that lets us try products that help brides “plan, pamper and prepare for the big day.” Thanks to AP bride blogger, Alex Titelman, for the great resource. For June, I got some really cool stuff. Can’t wait to see what’s in the July box!


Calvin and I celebrated our 2-year anniversary during July 4th weekend and ended it with the Beyoncé/Jay-Z concert. It was the perfect time to wear my new feyoncé tank that I got from ThreeTwo1 on etsy.  I absolutely love my shirt and got so many compliments on it. I waved my hand all over the place singing, “He liked it, so he put a ring on it.” ☺

The most difficult part of my month was visiting wedding venues. Trying to set up times to visit the sites was hard. Many are not open on weekends and the business hours conflicted with our work hours. The few locations that I visited were nice, but not what I envisioned for our day. I was starting to get discouraged and annoyed with the whole process. So…we sat down and talked and decided that we wanted a more intimate wedding on the beach with our close family and friends. Once we made that decision the excitement returned!! It just seems like the perfect choice for us. Now we are trying to just narrow down the location and the date.

June was such a busy month, and July is going to be even busier. I’m happy that we have accomplished a lot in a short time though, and I’m hoping to have more to share with you in the coming weeks.

LOVE my ring
Me admiring my ring


Until next time…